Past — How you will master your past and take all the treasures in it with you.
Yes, you can do it.
Past. Everyone has it and everyone deals with it in their own individual way. If you ask 100 people outside the family circle how they really think and feel about their own past. More than 90 % of the respondents answer that they complain about it. Themes here are often what they experienced in their childhood, what they didn’t get and what they tried to get, what they really wanted but didn’t succeed. They always tell you a story about WHY everything didn’t work out the way they wanted it to and WHO was supposedly involved and worked against it. It quickly becomes clear that this person sees himself as a prisoner, a victim of his own past.
Only with a handful of people do you get to hear something really positive. They like to talk openly about what happened to themselves in the past and all the great things they experienced. Many people constantly look at past events, at what has already happened in their lives or sometimes even before. They are not in peace with it and they struggle with it in their own way.
These past events that they themselves have lived, what they themselves have experienced and where they themselves were a part of it. Sometimes people also try to reinterpret the past, to turn it upside down, or to present it differently. Something is added that was not there. Or events are changed in a special way with an inner vehemence, preferably something is faded out or cut off and thus excluded. Often these things occur in creative combination so that the meaning behind them is also in one’s own favour. They are creative here.
Sometimes they do it just for themselves, to be able to deal with it better. Sometimes, however, they do it to convince the outside world that everything happened totally differently. The way they think it went down, or perhaps the way it should have gone down. Here there is already a certain inner pressure on the matter and their own repression mechanism becomes active again.
The view of the past.
Whenever someone looks into the past and is not at peace with it, they look back at what was. One thus reproduces the suffering from the already past event and brings it back into one’s own present. In this way, one feels that one is repeating this old experience, this old situation, this old past event over and over again. So they feel stuck in the past and are not in life. In the here and now. In the present. They are stuck in a kind of time loop and thus only block themselves. They hold on to something, something that only increases the pain they have already experienced, and so they only reproduce the suffering and can’t let it go. Not really.
Let’s be honest:
No matter how your past was, no matter how you see it, feel it or think it was. No matter what you have received or what you have allegedly been denied. It is and remains your personal past. Everyone has one and there is nothing special about it.
Go to a therapist and tell them about it, invest years of good money in these sessions and work through your past piece by piece for yourself. Talk about it with your family and friends or do as much physical exercise as you want to run away from it. In the end, you may have learned a few things and even gained knowledge about WHY these events from your past feel this way to you. But in the end, you will still be at the same point in life as before. Does that get you anywhere now? Really?
Because here comes the one real truth:
Who cares about your past?
No one. End of story.
Because everyone has one and it’s nothing special. Your past is what it is and it is a part of you. You cannot change it, manipulate it or make it go away. It is what it is. It is your past and you decide what you want to do with it. You can look at what you think is bad, at all the things that didn’t work out the way you wanted them to. You can relive it every single fucking day, keep it alive for you and reproduce the pain. You can stay in the victim mentality and whine about how shitty it all is.
You can change your point of view, change your perspective of your past to get out of this victim mentality. You can look at the good, at all that went well and let the other things be. You can look at all the positive things you have learned for your life and what you have been given, for example: values, experiences and ideas about life, ideals, powerful things and old knowledge and traditions.
All this can help you feel that special kick in your ass to get up, grab things and move on. To recover and take all that is important to you and go into your own life.
So you can look at all these potentials and recover these huge treasures in them. Yes, exactly. You can do that. Because behind every supposedly negative experience from your past, there is always a potential, a treasure waiting to be recovered by you.
Are you going that way?
This is not about reversing, distorting or reinterpreting the past. It’s about taking a different perspective on your past and moving away from the victim mindset. It’s about looking at the potential, at the treasures and recovering them from every single situation. Yes, everyone has them and everyone can find them in there. You just have to be willing to really get involved in this process and to allow what new things want to come out of it. Finally, you have to let go of your old point of view so that freedom, time and possibilities for the new can arise.
Only when you can let go of your past, reflect on the potentials and treasures in it and acknowledge it with humility and respect for what it is: your past. Only then will you be truly free and have the time and freedom to experience and ultimately live all that you really want. In the here and now, in the present. Just as you have felt deep inside for so long.
What are you still waiting for?